SELF-DISCIPLINE = MOTIVATION = SUCCESS
By David H. Sandler
Self-discipline is simply self-direction toward a particular goal. And the fact is, self-discipline directed toward a goal we are genuinely motivated to achieve is not especially difficult to come by, if we recognize in advance that struggle is necessary for any worthwhile goal. Where motivation is genuine and self-discipline nevertheless seems to falter, the reason is probably not "poor will-power" or "a failure of nerve," or any of the other catch phrases we use to punish ourselves and sustain self-doubt. Instead, the chances are strong that self-sabotage is taking place.
If discipline fails and we are nevertheless convinced that the desire to achieve our goal is genuine, we will be wise to ask whether we may not be unwittingly subverting our healthy aims and desires. We need to explore honestly and courageously what specific thoughts or patterns of behavior may be undermining motivation and discipline and above all ask why this seems to be occurring.
Self-discipline and motivation can only come from within. They can be aided by support from others. But they must be supported above all by self-knowledge and they must spring from the healthy substance of self, from the desire and struggle for the things we deeply value in life.
© 2004 Sandler Systems, Inc. All rights reserved.
PROFIT FROM OTHER PEOPLE'S EXPERIENCE
by David H. Sandler
Other people's experience can be enormously helpful. With it we can leapfrog both time and lack of training. But it can only be helpful if it is used.
Most people, mainly because of pride, cannot make use of other people's experience. Many cannot accept expertise or help. Most people cannot even listen to other's advice - or rather they seem to be listening but cannot make use of it.
To learn to listen to, to evaluate, to tap or to use the wisdom of others is an incomparable aid in being successful. This takes receptivity and is born of humility and a true feeling of self-worth.
Many of us resist use of other people's experience because we are afraid of our own potential dependency and compliancy. To the extent that we can assert ourselves, we can overcome this fear and use people's expertise, much as we use that of doctors and lawyers.
People who have strong ideas of their own are less reluctant to make use of expert consultation. Someone else may already have paid a price you need not pay. Look to your associates for lessons already learned.
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